Sunday, March 16, 2008

Niblet: Losing touch

Niblet's family moved a few weeks ago. Her aunt said they were keeping their old phone number and that we should call after they moved and we could see Niblet. We've been calling every couple of days since then, and there's been no answer. No voice mail. No answering machine. Nothing. Previously, they were without an answering machine for a while, but we very often caught them when they were home and they'd answer.

Our next step is to send a card (a "welcome to your new home" type card) to their old address and hope that they have their mail forwarded.

If that doesn't work, we're kinda SOL. We could call Niblet's caseworker and ask her to ask the aunt to call us, or send a letter through her, but that's not very likely to work, either.

Hopefully we'll get in touch, but what if we don't? I think about the last time we saw Niblet and I really don't want that to have been The Last Time. I mean, we live in a small enough city that we *could* cross paths at some point, but it's unlikely.

In related news, I found out that Niblet's "father" is seeing the domestic violence counselor at my workplace again. He was doing that when we had Niblet, as part of his case plan. He continued for a while after she was placed back with him, but had stopped. The fact that he's seeing her again suggests to me that he's trying to work his plan again. He's trying to get that poor baby girl back into his care again. He just needs someone to tell him to give it up. He's 70-fucking-years-old. She has a family who loves her and takes proper care of her. Let well enough alone.

I really need to get back in touch with Niblet. I need to hug her. And I need to stay informed about her case because, if he gets her back, there are things we need To Do.

Right now Squeak needs me, so I'll end here.


Amanda said...

This is heartbreaking on so many levels. You're not being able to find her and her missing out on contact with you. But even scarier that her dad is trying to get her back. That is so wrong.

I'm sorry. I hope you reestablish contact soon.

qUeEn oF tHe cAstLe said...

I hope that she is safe and they're not trying to pull anything. You have a great heart and you're right! Squeak DOES need you right now. Looks like Feliz will be leaving us soon. His Gma's home was approved. I think they're just waiting on paperwork. I'm dying inside but I know that this is just what I 'signed up' for and for now, this is the way it has to be. Prayers for PEACE going out to you and to Niblet in this (again) time of transition.

Overwhelmed! said...

I hope you're able to get in contact Nibblet again soon!

Sassy said...

What a difficult situation. It's so frustrating watching things slip out of your control. I hope they get back in contact with you soon.

Anna said...

I just found your blog, and am enjoying reading it. We also experienced a traumatic loss with having two children in our care we were told we could adopt, and then the state (of CT) moved them after almost a year. Even though we are currently trying to adopt from Ethiopia, there is still part of me that wants to go back into fostering once our adoption is complete. Am I just a glutton for punishment?

Overwhelmed! said...

Did you ever get back in touch with Nibblet and her family?

Kellie said...

Delurking to see if you've been able to make touch with Niblet's family yet. I love your blog. Thanks for sharing all you do.