Tuesday, November 21, 2006

It's an illness!

This foster parenting thing, that is.

Almost every day I think, yeah, maybe we should get back on the list earlier than we had thought we would. As if 3 weeks of good sleep, time for cooking and cleaning and hanging out together...is just too much (or enough) and we should mess it up with a new foster placement.

Since we're doing the private adoption route, too, I should KNOW that once we get that placement, that's it. No more sleep. No more "just us" time. Parenthood 24/7 for infinity.

Why do I want to mess with this special time we have now? Why do I want to take in some unknown baby sooner?

Because they're CUTE! and CUDDLY! and, for the time they're with me, MINE!

It really is so very weird to be parents without a child. I spend time trying to figure out what it was that I did with my free time before we became foster parents (2 years ago). I truly can't remember. It probably wasn't anything all that exciting.

Really, we're enjoying our time off. We're cooking, baking, cleaning, reading, visiting with friends, helping out our friends with kids, etc. It's really great.

But we will be ready for our adoptive placement starting in mid-December. And if we don't have one yet, we'll be getting back on the foster placement list around Christmas or New Year's. That's not very far away, really.

I just want to snuggle a baby, dress it up, sing it to sleep, play on the floor.

I guess I'll have to make do with our cats. Who really enjoy all those activities...except the dressing up.


Anonymous said...

I so get it.

Evan leaves in 19 days. I'm tired. Brian (12-year-old bioboy) is really tired. I know we need a break. I committed to taking a break.

And yet I think about the next kid.

Unlike you though I'm addicted to teenagers. Babies hold very little appeal, unless they belong to someone else. Then they are wonderful.

FosterMommy said...

yeah, totally. i know everyone has the illness. some people are immune, i guess. get that first placement, don't like it so much, and never do it again. or something like that.

we know quite a few people who have way more than the average number of kids because they kept taking fosters that just never left. 8 adopted here, 4 adopted there, etc.

Our friends currently have a teenage FD and, although we're so not ready for anyone over 1 or 2 right now, we know that, given 10-20 years, we'll be taking those crazy teens in a heartbeat.
We can see already how far the illness will progress. ;)

Julie said...

I hear you! I am so ready for the second baby- I love having just one but I hate saying no when they call! and the holidays are coming and it will be fun to have 2! I am getting back on the list for my second opening next week I think. :)

go ahead and dress up your cat! at least you can share the pics on your blog!! :)

Amanda said...

This is exactly what I'm dreading when Baby Bear leaves. I know that we need a break, some recovery time and yes some uninterrupted sleep. But even though we've only been at this for two months, we already feel like parents. And I don't know how that works once the kids are gone...

Good luck! I am hoping that the adoptive placement happens very, very, soon.

Cassie said...

I found your blog a few weeks ago when I was looking up fostering laws. Two young girls I know were placed in foster care recently and I was curious about some things. I read one or two of your posts and then had to go back and read the whole thing. I'm glad everything turned out well in the end, and that you still get to see Niblet. If only all cases could turn out like this or better. I'm sure everything will come into place for you two soon.