Looking to meet other folks who're trying to adopt through the foster system. It's a bit lonely to be doing things this way. There are so many uncertainties and stresses that are specific to this situation. Our friends who are having babies in different ways are sympathetic and supportive, but we don't know many people who're in the same boat as us.
I already have a blog where I write about this stuff, and lots of other things, on LJ, and it's friends-only to protect the identities of the kids. I'm not sure how I'll use this blog, but a couple of people have pointed out recently that having a public anon blog is a good way to connect with people in similar situations.
So if I get interested and interesting comments to this post, I'll probably start writing some stuff here.
Oh, and right now we have a baby placed with us who we've had for 4 months. She's cute! :)
"You know you are a foster parent when... Your heart is bigger than your brain."
Cast of Characters
We're two moms working with who have worked with the foster system and provided a loving home to each baby as he/she comes through our care. We had 9 foster babies including our FD "Niblet" (who we had for a year) who left us at the end of October 2006. She came back into care a year later and is living with relatives, hopefully permanently.
Our son, Squeak, came home to us in March 2007 (through domestic private adoption) and became ours in early April (legal finalization in June 2008).
Now we're "just moms", not foster moms. We're already planning on adopting our second child through domestic private adoption. But we'll probably convince ourselves to take up fostering again in the future. Because we're just crazy like that.
Other Foster Parents
- A DaY iN ThE LiFe...
- A Foster Mom's Journey
- A Special Family
- All Gawdess All the Time
- And Zen What
- Baggage That Goes With Mine
- Big Mama Hollers
- Buckeye Foster Mama
- cebii
- Celebrating All Families
- Dad's Highway
- Domestic Adoption Blog
- Finishing Off My Family
- Foster Adoption Blog
- Foster Care Blog
- Foster Mamas
- Fostering Pride
- Four Plus Four Equals Ten
- From 0 to 5
- Fuzzy pants make my feet dance
- Maybe I'm Psychic
- Mommadramma and the Hope Family
- My Chosen Child
- My Experiences as a Foster Parent
- My Life in a Foster Care Space Warp
- Navigating the Maze
- NDFosterMom
- one2four
- Other People's Kids
- Rambling through adoption
- Say That Again!
- Spotted Dog Turn
- Suck The Marrow
- The Good Enough Mother
- The Open Window
- Thoughts From a Foster Family
- Thoughts From a Foster Mom
- tipped uterus
- Upside-Down Adoption
- Wanting My House to be a Home
- WRAL.com Adoption Blog
- You Could Always Adopt
4 comments:
How long have you been fostering? What age groups besides the baby? Are you in a 'friendly" state?
We've been fostering for a little over a year. We only take babies under 1, though we're certified for 0-2.
And, yes, we're fortunate enough to be in NY and in a county that appreciates foster families of every kind. Though our case worker is still pretty convinced that all queer couples *must* know each other!
We have been fostering for 4 years. Originally, we wanted an elementary school aged kid, but we have actually never had one of those :)
S was first and she was 12. Then K at 15. E at 17. H and H at almost 3 months. They left and then Ben and Sophia (now adopted) at 7 months. Finally, after we thought we were done, we got R at 18 and M at 15. None of our teens are available for adoption except s and we have not done that yet because she is so high needs and we need the support to parent her. But our intent is that they stay and so far they have.
I have lots of foster/adopt friends, but few gay fostering firends. It was nice to see your message.
Even if you decide to not pursue this blog, I hope you keep in contact. My direct email is hlindsey@austin.rr.com
Holly (from0to5.blogspot.com)
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